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You're Not Stuck

Today's word is KNOW. Yesterday's word was STUCK. Together, I will write today's post. 

Now while I might've felt stuck at some point in my life, I can't recall those moments now. Perhaps when writing, I feel stuck and I feel like I'm not getting anywhere but I'd argue it's me, I am creating the problem. There is always something more to write, to add, to change, there is always somewhere to go. 

Some people are stuck in a relationship, one in which they know is hurting or hindering them or simply not for them. What once worked is now strained. What once was love is now tolerance. What once was unity is now division and the only time you're together is when you're in bed at night. That's rough, I can only imagine the tension. I don't want to take away from the reality of what it is - it definitely isn't easy. 

I was in a six year relationship and I never felt stuck so I know that one can go the distance and not think "Oh, it's you again." That particular relationship ended because we weren't on the same level after a number of years. It happens -- time lapses, people evolve and the person you met is no longer the person you're with. So we decided to go our separate ways and not get stuck. We could've settled and stayed in our comfortable place. We could've bought into the lie that things would get better when it was clear that we were at odds on certain topics and weren't willing to compromise. We could've thought we'll never find love again. He and I did try to work it out many times and we broke up and got back together and broke up again (that game couples play to which now I say, don't play it) but we started growing apart all the more. He's a great guy who is now married and I truly wish them best! He definitely deserves to be happy and that was always my prayer for him and I believe he is. Maybe he's thinking, na na na na na, you're still single! Who knows but it doesn't matter, I am in a great place and I know that God is preparing a man for me just as much as he is preparing me for him. Lord, don't let my words fall to the ground. *Giggles*

This feeling of being stuck is a lie, in my opinion. You're not stuck, and you have to know that you're not stuck. Maybe fear is holding you back from moving forward but you're not stuck. Maybe it's finances but you're not stuck. Maybe it's your age but you're not stuck. I just want you to know that. You have to make a choice to not be stuck, to unstick yourself if you will or time will do it for you but that's the hard way. It comes with resentment and bitterness because you didn't make the choice and now you feel powerless because the choice was made for you. 

When we use tape we can eventually remove the tape if it's no longer needed or with time the adhesive will wear out and it will no longer serve it's purpose - the 'stickiness' is gone. At that point it will force you to replace the tape or you can find another way to make it stick. Before that happens, there are signs that the tape is losing its glue. The paper is askew on the wall, the band-aid starts lifting, the thing that it is meant to hold together is no longer together and it is at this point that most would replace or renew it. Some of us don't, we'll ignore those signs but I'm suggesting we pay attention to those signs so that we don't fall into a "I'm stuck" mentality. 

You're not stuck, make a choice to replace and/or renew whatever IT is. Don't ignore the signs and don't ignore those gut feelings or that still small voice telling you to move, to go, to be free. We might be in one place for a long time due to ignorance or fear but once you know and have the wisdom, you can't use the excuse that you're stuck. There is always growth to be had, always something new to learn, always another hurdle to jump over, always another mountain to climb, and there is always victory waiting for you on the other side. I hope this encourages you and I pray that you know you're not stuck in your relationship, your career, or your life. There are people around you to help you should you be open to that. There are opportunities all around us especially in this digital age where there's easy and fast access. I hope you know that you deserve the best and you don't ever have to settle. I am preaching to myself here! We're in this together. 

Glory to God. 


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